Healing the Inner Child Hypnotherapy in Sydney
The Hero’s Journey
Healing the Inner Child hypnotherapy is offered here in this Sydney clinic. Hypnotherapy, suggestion and regression therapy is used to create a landscape for self-healing. As we begin the process of healing the Inner child, we tap into feeling states we may have experienced in our younger years by changing negative patterns and clearing emotional blockages. We can release deep anger, rage, guilt and painful wounds that exist deep in our unconscious mind.
In our childhood, we may experience trauma which creates multiple ego personalities, create our programming from parental and social conditioning. This isn’t always a healthy thing. Because of this programming, we begin to abandon ourselves, our wants, desires and dreams. We begin to lose our sense of authenticity and true nature. We can also lose our sense of boundaries where others are willing to cross. Once we tap into that inner child, we then create that healthy boundary around us, developing a stronger sense of self and creating a path to a more empowered and enlightened self. Healing the Inner Child therapy can help create that space for yourself as you integrate that true sense of self back into your present. When dealing with trauma in childhood, we don’t have a developed mind to process complex traumas. The child hasn’t matured in a healthy way, so as the child become an adult, a mature level of brain activity and awareness is able to process unresolved issues trapped within the persons life timeline. Essentially, it is energy that is transmuted and transformed.
“Childhood is measured out by sounds and smells and sights, before the dark hour of reason grows”
Moving back to our inner true self
As we grow up, we often abuse and abandon ourselves by creating a defence system of Co-dependence. We then become our own worst enemy, becoming dependent on others for validity and esteem. The inner child isn’t supposed to be in control of all things around them. This inner child is meant to be free to discover, play and feel a sense of joy in all its experiences.
As a child in trauma, sometimes we suppress these experiences deep in the unconscious mind. The strange thing about it is that these hidden experiences still dictate our behaviours in our everyday interactions with friends, family and relationships. The process of healing is about extending your adult present self out to the child self, allowing the child to feel safe and secure. Giving the child a place to heal is what needs to happen. So reassuring the child that he or she is loved, cared for and respected, giving the child a place to vent, beginning the process of letting go and healing. Essentially, the adult self is taking on the parent where understanding is offered, even when the child has built walls of defence, protecting itself from threat. The key to the action work of healing is on going healing even after the therapy sessions, where the child is placed somewhere within the present adult awareness in a safe place and on going attention and inner dialogue helps the child matures and grows. In other words, there is plenty of self help work that is needed by the client, where the client actually becomes the therapist for the child.
Nurturing the child within
There are many ways to do this and the therapy depends on the situation. We must touch the hand of the child with a sense of understanding using deep mindfulness and relaxation. Mindfulness is the process of being more aware of what the child is experiencing, offering the child a hand of understanding, the hand of your adult wisdom. Once the adult wisdom of understanding begins the process of kindness and compassion towards the child, the child will feel a sense of security so it can let go of the pain and anger held deep in the shadows of their mind. The unconscious defence mechanisms suppress these feelings in order to protect the welfare of the individual, in other words, the child aspect of the self will always go with what is familiar rather than do something outside of its comfort zone. And the child’s growth has been retarded. Think of the child as a part of your whole, a little like a patch of grass has has not grown lush and green from lack of sun and nurture.
Once we move down into the unconscious mind with love and care, as a loving parent ego, we can then allow the unconscious to let go of the grip it holds for protection. Once this happens, the child ego and the adult person can then communicate with each other, allowing the process of resolution and integration as one being. Once this integration process is completed, we also integrate the wonder and beauty of the child back into the adult awareness. Think of it as a trading. The adult parent self is offering its wisdom as the child, eventually will offer is playfulness, wander and joy to the adult self.
As we begin the release of painful feelings and experiences in childhood, we can then re-learn to honour that child we once were in order to love the wise adult self in the present. Before this happens, we need to release the emotional energies of pain we carry and return that joy of childhood back into the present adult awareness.
The Mechanics of Healing our Child
First step is to strengthen the adult self with the spirit of the higher self. Guidance and creative inspiration of spirit needs to be developed through being honest and truthful with the self. Building support structures through friends, family or any positive influences that will not judge needs to be established, experiencing the state of being strong and capable of parenting the child. Second stage is to thread to the origins of the feelings states and behaviour by exploring beliefs and thoughts. To dialogue with the child, build trust and show the child love, support and a space to be heard. The child may not understand what has happened to them. Explaining and reframing beliefs with truth and appropriate behaviours helps the child heal. The adult parent (your present self) will be busting the mis-conceptions the child has developed as a child. The child’s feeling states always develop before the child can reason cognitively, so clearing things up helps the child let go. Third stage is to then continue to support, correct and nurture the child by maturity through communicative understanding of what is true and challenging beliefs. Is this true… Now? The process is about maturing the child through communication and dialogue. The adult must always find the parent for the child, not the child. The child may be very petulant, spoilt, angry and unable to reason. The adult self is responsible in correcting misconceptions and maturing the child as an adult.
The child always needs a new parental champion but always needs to be asked first when seeking the champion. It is always recommended to breaking any rules embedded in childhood. It’s ok to make a mistake. As the child is communicated with, the child needs to grieve the past losses. Sometimes the child needs to say goodbye to their parents so he/she can be reparented as this can be very hard. Strangely, the child can feel safe within the familiar trauma. The child is removed from the toxic environment where the trauma was created. The child can return back to the original parents after the healing is completed. In this process, the child needs to create boundaries from the parents. It is always a delicate balance between saying goodbye from the old parents and believing and trusting the adult self as the new parent. The child can find other people who he/she can be inspired as a champion, making sure that the child is not finding external validation from others in finding love. The idea is to direct the healing internally between the child and the adult self ensuring that the person in therapy is developing a self love approach. Love, validation and approval can not be found outside of the self. Before any human being can love another, the person needs to generate their own love, respect and attractive energy from within and projecting it outwards from within.
Finally, the process is about integrating the child within the adult present time in every moment, within a place where the adult can love, mature and nurture the child. Spending time talking to the child ten minutes a day is preferable for change. Some people prefer to write to the child. Questions to ask the child would be, “What are you wanting, feeling, needing?” Normalising the shame can help the child let go of those red light negative emotions. The spiritual self can be a witness of the healing process which can help in assuring the child that the adult is strong enough to be its parent. This higher self can watch the dialog between the child and the adult parent self. This aspect of the self can install new voices of loving and nurturing care, overriding parental shameful voices from the past. The adult parent can use tactile touch, playing, experiencing nature, visualisation and imagination to bring the joy of the child into the present. Mindfulness or spending time alone doing nothing can be a great way to bring the joy of the child into the present. This usually happens when the child is trusting the adult parental self and is beginning to mature.
“When we’re all living in the space of the inner child, loving, honouring, respecting, and embracing its desires, we are at peace.”
This process of Inner Child therapy is where the child is introduced to a new healing space, preferably a space they desire to be creative in. It’s important to know that when healing in this therapy, it is always good to remove the child from the space they developed their trauma or negative beliefs from. Once the child is taken to a space of safety, playfulness and creativity, the child is then introduced to the present adult parental self and other people who the child may have trusted, respected and felt safe around. In this process, the child can explore itself with creativity, authentic expression and maturity, in a way it couldn’t in its true historical past. Another thing to remember is that not all clients will identify a trauma from a single incident. Some people may find it difficult to pin point where the origin of their limitations come from. But eventually and most often, the trauma stems from childhood, where the programming took place.
Creative Unconscious mind believes the fantasy story
When in this new Inner Child healing space, the therapist will create a metaphoric story where the child can explore itself and mature. A story that can empower the child and allow free flow of expression and creativity. The unconscious aspect of the true self is creative and does not know the difference between fact or fantasy. So letting go and trusting the unconscious mind to take in the new story as real is essential. The only thing that gets in the way is the critical faculty of the analytical mind. All we need to do is command it to step aside and let the healing take place.
Nourishing the true beauty of the authentic self
Within this effective Healing the Inner Child therapy in Sydney, we will visit feeling states in your childhood that bring back a sense of wonder, joy, innocence and authenticity back into your present awareness. During this therapy, the first hour is discussion moving through what it is you are wanting to clear and how you want to feel in the present. Identifying what it is you don’t want is very important. It is then mandatory to be clear about what you are seeking. A clear intention is important. As we then begin to move into the state of awareness we are seeking, we then begin the process of using our creativity to manifest what we want.
Think of it as visiting a time when you were a child. Creativity, adventure and inquisitiveness was so easy when we were very young. When we go back to this state of awareness, we can then bring it back into the present. In this process, we will then bring the feeling state back into your body as it’s anchored into your present adult body and awareness.
The landscape of our shadow unconscious
Deep within your unconscious, this awareness is waiting to be activated. Imagine Inner Child Hypnotherapy as the key and the unconscious mind as the door. What’s behind the door is that inner authenticity of your true self. Behind that door is your true aspects of playfulness, inquisitiveness, joyfulness, compassion and divine bliss. The second and third hour is Hypnotherapy, suggestion therapy, mindfulness and deep relaxation. With relaxation, you will move your consciousness to a deep ‘Theta Brain wave’ state where your unconscious mind is doing its work to protect and nurture you.
Here we will move through the deep landscape of your Childhood feeling states, bridging your present adult wisdom and then marrying this with your future aspirations. Once we then move forward, we are then able to project that inner child into the future as it then begins its metamorphosis into the present. Essentially you’re bringing childhood joy into the now and your future intentions into the present now.
There is no time like the ‘NOW’. Once we say to ourselves, I want to feel this now, we are no longer stalling what we want into the future. In essence, bliss is experienced in the now and not tomorrow. This is the key to unlocking what we want.
Healing the Inner Child therapy can assist with a wide range of physical and emotional issues, such as:
- Loss of joy and contentment
- Low Self Esteem
- Anxiety and Depression
- The loss of life’s enthusiasm
- Chronic Pain
- Illness and Disease
- Loneliness and Grief
- Relationship problems
- Learning issues
- Disconnected from nature and the universe
- Outbursts of anger
Do you suffer from Mental Illness or Depression?
Often these symptoms will be treated with drugs prescribed by a doctor. Anti-depressants, sleep medication, and perhaps a diet or stop smoking program will be prescribed. It’s a good idea to see a doctor first before seeing a Hypnotherapist.
With duty of care for my clients, I need to ask before we proceed with a session. I am not able to facilitate Hypnotherapy if you have a mental illness such Schizophrenia or Bipolar. If you are on Depression medication, you will need to get a doctors referral first before the session and bring the referral to the session.
For effective results, a minimum of 6 sessions is required.
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